Porn And Bareback

Hey Again.

I was happy to read the comments and get a couple of emails about my last post. I didn't know what other people think about that subject and I was happy to hear and see that are other people that have the same thoughts as I do on the subject.

Another thing that came to my mind during this post and reading the comments was the subject of bareback sex. I know that there are a lot of guys that feel the sex is better without a condom and even though it's highly dangerous they still do it.

I can't go and criticize the way they choose to live their life, but the fact that so many porn sites show bareback or use it to get people to log on, ( or get off ) seems so problematic to me.

It's problematic in two departments, at least in my opinion. The first is that they send the wrong message to gays watching porn, when a lot of times like I mentioned last week there are young teenagers out there watching.

I really think that young guys out there who don't have a role model or someone to learn what’s right and what's wrong, because they aren't out, can really get the wrong message from all this, and maybe see an actor as a role model or gay porn, or in this matter bareback gay porn as something that's legit or welcomed.

And secondly the fact that the "actors" do it and risk their own health is something I find disturbing. I know that a lot of times it's another way to make a living and probably they get paid more for having sex without a condom.

I also know that the results can be horrible, and affect people's life in a way they can't imagine or don't think about at that moment. I know that all of us have those thoughts that we are invisible and to us it won't happen, but in the end it always happens to someone.

I know that also that there is the same matter of straight porn sites that have a man and woman having sex with no condom, and I think it's just as bad.

However, In the end of the day, HIV, is a social stigma related with the gay community, even though it's not necessarily true, it doesn't really matter. I know that porn sites and porn companies only care about making money, just like any other business, but I feel that the results can be catastrophic.

While I don't expect gay porn or gay porn actors to set a example for what's right and wrong, I just think that it's sad in a way, the results it can have on them and on the community watching is something that really gets to me.

I don't know if I sound old fashioned, but It's a strong opinion that I carry. Gay porn is cool, it's nice, it turns you on, and each one in his own way, but the results that can come with it is sometimes too much, at least in my book, at least concerning bareback sex. The gay "community" a lot of times is "put out there" sometimes by their own will and sometimes by others as different from other "communities".

I just think we have a bigger responsibility to promote safe sex and the right sexual behavior, especially with the stigma already attached by a lot of people to "gay people".

While I don't expect gay porn sites to do it, I expect it to come from others, who exactly? It's hard to say, it might be naive to say from leading gay actors who need to do more to call out the bareback issue.

It might be naïve to say from leading gay figures out there who have influence especially on youth, or maybe when I think about it a little more, it’s just me being naïve.

TV And The Real World

Hey

During the weekend I had sometime to sit down and watch some of the NCAA tournament and what a tournament it is, with so many quality games, so many upsets and surprises, it's the best any basketball fan can wish for.

Watching it started me thinking about TV and it's relationship with the gay community or the gay world, I'm not old enough to remember the 70's and parts of the 80's, but I know that the 90's and this last decade brought a different approach to the word gay and everything around it.

If I take will and grace which started in 1998 and was very successful, and was really a great show with a wide audience , or I can take Ellen's show which she eventually came out in. I think shows with a gay main character was around, but not in the way that it is today.

Basically I think that a lot of shows have taking a different attitude, nowadays a lot of drama's and a lot of shows have gay relationships, gay affairs and characters that play a gay role and do it on a regular base.

I might be missing a lot of shows and maybe not correct in every word I say on the subject, but I feel that it's becoming something that is taking more lately, in the meaning that it's just another relationship on a show and in a story. I would like to say, just like a straight couple but I think it's still not there.

I also believe that the wide audience has learned to accept it more openly and to see it as something that is a part of day to day life, even though it's just TV, I do believe that it has an effect on people and on teenagers that watch the shows.

I believe that those shows can deliver a message a big part of the time, telling others that it's fine to be gay, that it's normal to be gay and that there are others around, and maybe even that can bring some peace of mind to those who need it.

I'm not lying to myself, of course I know that there are still a lot of homophobic shows, or shows that tend to the situation in the wrong way or try to bring gays out not as equals, but I believe that any movement forward is a blessed thing.

On a personal note, when I watch a gay couple on TV, it always feels so real to me, maybe it's because it's something I want and maybe cause sometimes, me and others can make the separation between just a character and real life.

A lot of times I wish that I could meet that great looking guy or that great looking couple, even forgetting for a moment that it's just an actor who 99 % of the time isn't even gay. I guess wanting something so bad makes you think and wish things that aren't always reality.

On a Different subject, when I started this blog, I looked to find people to talk to and to share my thoughts and hear what they have to say, I'm happy to say that with every post and every day that goes by, I hear more from people and I get the chance to talk to others, to share my feelings and hear there own feelings, and I must say it's great!!

Got to finish on a optimistic song after a post like this, I could save this song to the day I retire and move on to my other life, but I'm in a good mood, so It's as good as time as any :

There's a new me coming out
And I just had to live
And I wanna give
I'm completely positive
I think this time around
I am gonna do it
Like you never do it
Like you never knew it
Ooh, I'll make it through

The time has come for me
To break out of the shell
I have to shout
That I'm coming out