Hey everyone, hope all is well.
Is everyone excited like me for the start of the MLB today? I'm taking a wild guess that the answer will be no.
In any case, I just witnessed something in our locker room around two-three weeks ago and I thought it was right to share it with everyone.
One of our teammates started talking about gay guys, after they mentioned that one of the NBA stars has to be go, because he runs like one and for that reason also there is no chance that his team will win a championship.
The conversation just got worse all the time, from talking about the fact that two guys kissing is disgusting, to just bad mouthing anything that has to do with being gay.
Later they moved to talking about what would happen if they had gay kids and how they would react. Some tried to explain that they won't not treat or love their kids any less, but at the same time said that they wouldn't allow their son and bf to come in to their house, which is a little like condoning your son for what he is, isn't it?
Some tried to explain that they wouldn't be able to love their kids the same if they were gay, almost everyone agreed that they wouldn't let their kid and bf kiss in their presence, while most said they won't allow them to come together to their house.
Others said that they would go to their son's house and meet his bf also. They also talked about how if they found out a friend of them was gay it would change everything, even if it would be a long time friend.
There was one or two players that tried to send just a little different, not too much, but they were a little more accepting and much less homophobic.
No need to say that I didn't take part in that conversion.
There was no need to raise suspicion and I also have no doubt that what they say and think is so off from what I feel and that there is no way I would change their mind, so better off just leaving like nothing happened.
I cant say that I felt great after all that talk, usually those things don't bother me too much, but that time it was a little different. Again, it doesn't make me change any thoughts or feelings that I had.
I'm not the least worried about those specific people/players, cause I have no doubt that besides one player there is no chance I would stay friends with any of my teammates after my career.
Just to make it clear, not because they are homophobic or not, but because I don't feel that I share too many things with them anyway, just a common goal of succeeding on the floor and bringing our team as much success as possible.
On another note, I'm waiting for the final four that is just around the corner, don't know about you, but i'm a Butler fan this weekend.
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Thursday, March 31, 2011
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Life In The Locker Room
Hey again
So it's been just a couple of days since my last post and life does go on :).
Anyway, this post is dedicated mostly to the locker room, not real secrets or something outrages but just my take on things and just some facts and details.
To make sure that everyone is on the same page I will just say that the looker room is usually build up of 15 players more or less in one locker room, along with a couple of physiotherapists,equipment managers and team managers that go in and out.
Of course it's not really a room, cause there is a place for treatments, the showers, the equipment rooms, some places have sauna and things of that nature.
Basically this is our mutual living place, something like the big brother, only we get to go home twice a day...
I will be honest from the beginning and say how I feel in the locker room, The showers, been half dressed or not dressed at all and everything that you can think of isn't a bother to me at all, I guess it's something I blocked out along time ago. It's never on my mind, or I'm i ever worried that something will happen or that I will feel awkward or anything else.
I don't know other gay guys in the same situation every day, but I'm pretty sure that it's a common thing, like anyone of us that also plays contact sport. Our mind is thinking about what we are doing I guess and less on things around that have nothing to do with the game.
Our time in the looker room is used to just sit and chat, get treatments, listen to music, relax, or just get the energy and the mind going before practice or a game. Just like every team in the world, whether it's in the NBA or anywhere else we have players from different countries and different mentalities.
We get along quite good, Even though just like any other work places, you have those days when you are not really up to it, but you still got to step in the room and join the rest.
To be honest, for most teams and looker rooms I have been in, there is one international subject that everyone feels happy to gossip about, besides basketball of course, and that's women.
I know it's something natural and I don't have a problem with it, somewhere down the line someone said that basketball players are just kids who haven't really grown up, they might be right.. :)
I can't really say it interests me to hear too much about every guy and his sex life and how this girl is more a ...... than others ( and u can fill it in yourself).
Must say, I don't think I'm the type that would talk about those things even if I was straight, Guess everyone is different, I'm not really a quit guy, i have my views and I make them heard, just not on those subjects.Some things I try to keep to myself,I feel that all the talk just makes it cheap sex and not my cup of tea.
Even though once in a while I will say a couple of things or tell someone about a girl hitting on me, or sending people to find out if I'm single. Don't do it too much, but just enough to avoid questions.
Also, like I wrote in one of my first posts, in basketball a lot of times the players or the team changes, so I get a fresh start and can deal with fresh faces most of the time and not to many questions.
I can't judge either, cause want it or not, basketball players or pro athletes don't have to work to hard or work at all to meet a woman or go out with one, the girls always find as, quick and often, so I guess when it's so easy, it just happens a lot.
Can say that the locker room is something different than what people usually are used to, maybe even in the way that there we all feel comfortable to be ourselves to a point. If it's towards other players, fans, coaches or what ever you can think of.
What I mean is that once you go on the court, on TV, on radio or newspapers you have to sell the same quotes and same things : " how the team is the only thing that is important, how you don't care if you scored 25 or 23 but as long as the team won, there is no I in team and things like that.
We are taught to keep it clean and diplomatic rather than what you might really think. But that's the unwritten rule and that's what is expected, so we just follow, and that's fine by me.
Anyway just wanted to give you a little look to the locker room, or to what goes around it....
Feel free if you have any Questions....
So it's been just a couple of days since my last post and life does go on :).
Anyway, this post is dedicated mostly to the locker room, not real secrets or something outrages but just my take on things and just some facts and details.
To make sure that everyone is on the same page I will just say that the looker room is usually build up of 15 players more or less in one locker room, along with a couple of physiotherapists,equipment managers and team managers that go in and out.
Of course it's not really a room, cause there is a place for treatments, the showers, the equipment rooms, some places have sauna and things of that nature.
Basically this is our mutual living place, something like the big brother, only we get to go home twice a day...
I will be honest from the beginning and say how I feel in the locker room, The showers, been half dressed or not dressed at all and everything that you can think of isn't a bother to me at all, I guess it's something I blocked out along time ago. It's never on my mind, or I'm i ever worried that something will happen or that I will feel awkward or anything else.
I don't know other gay guys in the same situation every day, but I'm pretty sure that it's a common thing, like anyone of us that also plays contact sport. Our mind is thinking about what we are doing I guess and less on things around that have nothing to do with the game.
Our time in the looker room is used to just sit and chat, get treatments, listen to music, relax, or just get the energy and the mind going before practice or a game. Just like every team in the world, whether it's in the NBA or anywhere else we have players from different countries and different mentalities.
We get along quite good, Even though just like any other work places, you have those days when you are not really up to it, but you still got to step in the room and join the rest.
To be honest, for most teams and looker rooms I have been in, there is one international subject that everyone feels happy to gossip about, besides basketball of course, and that's women.
I know it's something natural and I don't have a problem with it, somewhere down the line someone said that basketball players are just kids who haven't really grown up, they might be right.. :)
I can't really say it interests me to hear too much about every guy and his sex life and how this girl is more a ...... than others ( and u can fill it in yourself).
Must say, I don't think I'm the type that would talk about those things even if I was straight, Guess everyone is different, I'm not really a quit guy, i have my views and I make them heard, just not on those subjects.Some things I try to keep to myself,I feel that all the talk just makes it cheap sex and not my cup of tea.
Even though once in a while I will say a couple of things or tell someone about a girl hitting on me, or sending people to find out if I'm single. Don't do it too much, but just enough to avoid questions.
Also, like I wrote in one of my first posts, in basketball a lot of times the players or the team changes, so I get a fresh start and can deal with fresh faces most of the time and not to many questions.
I can't judge either, cause want it or not, basketball players or pro athletes don't have to work to hard or work at all to meet a woman or go out with one, the girls always find as, quick and often, so I guess when it's so easy, it just happens a lot.
Can say that the locker room is something different than what people usually are used to, maybe even in the way that there we all feel comfortable to be ourselves to a point. If it's towards other players, fans, coaches or what ever you can think of.
What I mean is that once you go on the court, on TV, on radio or newspapers you have to sell the same quotes and same things : " how the team is the only thing that is important, how you don't care if you scored 25 or 23 but as long as the team won, there is no I in team and things like that.
We are taught to keep it clean and diplomatic rather than what you might really think. But that's the unwritten rule and that's what is expected, so we just follow, and that's fine by me.
Anyway just wanted to give you a little look to the locker room, or to what goes around it....
Feel free if you have any Questions....
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